Depression, anxiety, and autoimmune symptoms after birth is not how it’s supposed to be. There is a much better way, and I’m here to show you how to do just that. Hey, my friend, I’m Maranda Bower, a mother to four kids and a biology student turned scientist obsessed with changing the world through postpartum care. Join us as we talk to mothers and the providers who serve them and getting evidence-based information that actually supports the mind, body, and soul in the years after birth.
Holy Toledo, you guys. I am here with Holly Stein, the founder of Mama Meals, which is an organic postpartum meal delivery service, which you probably already know.
Mama Meals blends principles of traditional Chinese medicine and Ayurveda to create these nourishing, absolutely phenomenal meals that are exactly what a new mom needs after giving birth.
They are thoughtfully prepared, frozen and shipped straight to your door.
I have been following her forever.
We’ve been chatting back and forth.
Finally she’s here on the podcast and I’m freaking thrilled for this conversation.
Holly, welcome.
Holly Stein: 1:18
Oh my gosh, that was such a great welcome. You nailed it. I know I’m like seriously excited. I’m excited to be here. I
Maranda Bower: 1:28
I know I know we we both share such a love for postpartum nutrition and so much of our stories began with the birth of our children and we have like these stories of here’s what happened with my first, when I didn’t really understand or know about nourishment, nutrition and how important it was, and like the gut changes that happen in birth and all of this versus like the next kid and then legit changing our lives, creating businesses around supporting others and postpartum nutrition.
So I really want to hear your story and just share with everyone how this got started for you.
Holly Stein: 2:18
Yeah, I mean, we both have the classic like make your mess your message and really just like understood like the value and importance of postpartum.
So I got pregnant with my first in 2016. So he’s seven right now and I was already very well down the wellness rabbit hole at that point.
We were already eating really clean we were into grass fed meats already.
I switched out all of my skincare and cleaning products. I was making a lot of that stuff. So I felt like very knowledgeable and equipped and I read The Better Baby Book by Dave Asprey.
I ended up finishing it on vacation when I got pregnant.
So it was very fresh in my mind. So I felt very well-equipped.
I had the Nourishing Traditions book.
We settled on a birth center. So we had a midwife, we had a doula, I did hypno babies. So I felt like very well researched on my whole pregnancy, the nutrition, the fitness.
I was going to prenatal yoga, doing all those things very well prepared for the birth, and then zero, prepared for postpartum.
I didn’t know that I needed to prepare for it. So my midwife and doula were like you need to rest. You have, you know, the wound the size of a dinner plate inside of you. And I was like, got it, I will rest. And I did that.
But I feel like back then I mean that was not that long ago, but so much has changed in seven years they weren’t talking about nutrition the way that we are now. There’s like so many people that weren’t posting on Instagram with education on accounts.
No one was talking about it. So I had things that I thought were healthy, like cold smoothies, raw salads, well-intentioned junk food that people brought, like pizza and all kinds of stuff and I was chronically constipated for the first month, Like I was fearful to poop for a month.
Maranda Bower:
But wait, Holly isn’t that normal?
Holly Stein: 4:49
Common does not mean normal. Yes, very common, not normal.
Holly Stein: 4:56
My uterus shrank really fast, I stopped bleeding really fast, so I had all these signs like I’m recovering really well.
I remember telling my husband like around like maybe six to eight weeks if this is the very best that it gets I don’t think I want to have another baby.
I just thought, well, this is just postpartum, this is normal, like I thought it was normal and I was doing fine.
Holly Stein: 5:34
I developed postpartum anxiety which was not really talked about at the time.
Even postpartum depression was not talked about enough, but that was kind of like more on the forefront but like the anxiety and the rage were like not even discussed really at all. So I had postpartum anxiety which I did not know was postpartum anxiety because it had nothing to do with the baby.
Holly Stein: 5:59
It was like anxieties and other weird things.
I don’t want to get in an elevator.
So, fast forward, I meet this mom at this like drop-in mom’s group, at a doula’s office that I was going to, and her baby was a little bit younger and she’s like oh, I just finished my first 40 days and it’s my first time like out of the house and I was like, what’s the first 40 days?
And she told me about The First 40 days, the traditional Chinese medicine approach to postpartum and how you’re supposed to have warm soups and stews and bone broths, and I was like, well, gosh, that makes a lot of sense.
Holly Stein: 6:38
So my son was like maybe only six or seven months.
I want the redemption postpartum.
I feel like I have got the pregnancy and birth stuff covered.
So then I got pregnant with my daughter and she was born in 2020 and I got the First 40 days. I read it cover to cover, went on Pinterest, looked at their recipes and created a whole menu and I meal prepped over 60 meals, stored them all in my deep freezer.
I made a menu and I laminated it to be next to my bedside and I would every day be like, oh, I think I want the blueberry oat pancakes for breakfast this morning.
My recovery I had first of all, no digestion issues.
Holly Stein: 7:30
I was scared to poop because of the last postpartum. I pooped, it was easy, it was normal and it was great. It was a huge celebration in our house.
Maranda Bower: 7:41
Isn’t it funny how you have a baby and then we celebrate everybody pooping?
Holly Stein: 7:46
Then just my mood felt brighter.
Every time I ate, I felt like I was being wrapped in this warm hug.
I just felt like there’s like a weight off my shoulders, I can breathe.
I’m wearing a diaper, my boobs are leaking. I feel like a mess right now, but I know that everything’s going to be okay. So I got through that postpartum, even with a toddler.
My son was three. That was still a much easier postpartum, even with him around.
Holly Stein: 8:29
And then, I think around like seven or eight months, a friend reached out and she’s like I’m really struggling postpartum. Do you have like a doula recommendation?
So I was like, yeah, here’s, here’s someone, but let me cook some food for you.
I have these recipes.
I just was feeling so fulfilled at the opportunity to cook and give her this food because I know how much it helps me.
Now my daughter was about one. I was telling my husband, we got to start this business.
He was like that sounds like a lot of work and we don’t have any experience with like food businesses.
Holly Stein: 9:46
I was like, oh, we’ll just figure it out, it’s fine.
I went on Canva and I just made a PDF.
Then I bought a website on Squarespace and I just said, like, website coming soon, click here to see the menu. That was November/December of 2021.
Then within a month or two, I had to buy a second deep freezer and it just exploded from there and now we’ve been shipping nationwide for over a year and we’ve been in the commercial kitchen for over a year. It’s crazy.
Maranda Bower: 10:19
Yes, and like we’ve watched you grow and I get people all of the time, especially who come through the certification program. They were like are you going to partner with them? Because I would really like to use their meals for my work and what I do and that would just make my job easier, because not everybody, like I’m not the person who loves to cook.
So in my journey, like having my son he’s 14 now like nobody was talking about it. Actually, I remember specifically hearing, if you tell somebody that you have postpartum depression or anxiety, they’re not going to know what to do and you might lose your child.
That was the world that I was living in, which was crazy to think that’s only 14 years ago that that was happening. Yeah, and so I didn’t tell a soul.
Then the second one was like wait a second, I’m going to do something radically different.
Here’s the redemption postpartum that I didn’t plan for the first time. So very similar.
I had all the great foods and I felt so freaking amazing that I got so involved in life well before I should have, because I felt so good. I was pushing myself, cause I was like, no, I’m totally different, I can handle everything, and then I crashed really, really hard.
So it took me three.
Maranda Bower: 11:45
My third one I ended up with postpartum bipolar because I thought, oh, everybody else is going to plan the meals for me. I’m going to set up meal trains.
I had a freezer, but we were also in transition. We were building our property and our dream home here where we’re at now in Alaska, and I was in a transition.
I didn’t have the ability to do it. Anyway, fast forward.
Maranda Bower: 12:10
I was like I don’t even like to cook. It didn’t work out that way.
So I am actually in education and supporting people in education because of my stories, and I love that. You’re actually doing the groundwork, supporting people and I’m very curious because you mentioned like you’re on the forefront, in your personal life, and I always feel that has been my journey as well.
It’s so easy for me to decipher really quickly that’s not appropriate kind of foods, versus oh my gosh, why should really pay attention to this information?
How did that happen for you?
Because you’re all about traditional Chinese medicine, ayurvedic practices.
You mentioned nourishing foods. That is a gold standard.
How did you come to that without getting swooped into the current medical nutritional model, which is so opposite?
Holly Stein: 13:18
I had an experience when I was 18 to mid twenties, where I was having digestive issues, all these issues and constipation, stomach aches, acid reflux, and I was just so failed by that system of them being like here’s the pill for that.
Not one doctor ever asked me what do you eat? What is your diet like? How much water do you drink?
I was playing sports, I was very active, but I was doing endoscopies.
I did a colonoscopy.
We were well down the rabbit hole. It was just pill, pill, pill.
Holly Stein: 14:07
I took a ton of acid blockers for over a year and it actually turned out I had low stomach acid. So I was actually worsening the problem without knowing it.
I was really in that space of the doctor knows, almost like the doctor is god, they know everything, whatever they say.
Then when my husband and I were dating we watched the documentary Food Inc. and we’re like, oh my gosh, that’s so weird maybe we should buy organic eggs instead.
Holly Stein: 14:35
It was a very slow transition for us.
He had his whole story or two of allergies, stomach pains that turned out to be red bull, energy drinks, all those things and we went on this journey together of we both lost a bunch of weight, my digestion regulated, my skin was better, we had this huge transformation via nutrition.
Now we’re like well, that’s so weird.
Then we went on that whole that phase where we need to tell everyone about it.
Since around like 25 to 26, I started seeking like more alternative opinions and other ways and I just had such good success.
I learned about Ayurveda and the different doshas and I was like wow, I resonate with all of these things that are my dosha, which is like Vata, which is air and space.
When you’re out of balance, you tend to be constipated, you get anxiety, you get the dry skin. These things felt so validating.
Holly Stein: 15:50
We went through all the phases of keto, raw vegan, regular vegan, corn.
We’ve tried all these different things and I always come back to a Western diet, all foods, sourced well, properly prepared. If we’re eating oats, we do sprouted oats that are not sprayed with glyphosate. We do well-treated animals, regenerative meats.
So it was really just came back down to the quality.
I’m mostly gluten-free because my digestion was better, but now I discovered iron corn, or I can have a little bit of sourdough.
I don’t need to be eating six pieces of sourdough a day.
You can go overboard with all those things.
Just learning about the quality and it just made so much sense and I realized that we’re coming back to postpartum.
Holly Stein: 16:48
We’re the only culture who doesn’t do this.
I meet other people and I tell them about the business.
I was at ballet and there was a Mexican mom.
My mom made this and this and this.
They’re like oh yeah, we don’t do that what you guys do here.
Every culture has their own version of the warm, soft, easy to digest foods except for us, and they’re they’re all similar.
Maranda Bower: 17:11
They might use different ingredients, but all the principles are the exact same, and it’s the principles, and I talk to so many people about this, obviously.
But, like the way our bodies physiologically change in postpartum, we all know, our bodies change, but nobody’s talking about how, especially how we’re digesting our foods, and every other culture is like yeah, we nailed that down a long time ago.
You’re so far behind and here in the Western world they’re like no, that’s not true.
We don’t have evidence-based information for that.
It’s really frustrating and it’s really sad to see that that is the case.
Holly Stein: 17:57
Yeah, I like what you said.
On your second postpartum you ate well, but jumped back in too fast and that’s what I did too.
The first one, I ate poorly and jumped back in too fast.
Second one I ate well, jumped back too fast and I’m 20 weeks now with my third.
Holly Stein: 18:12
I am not jumping in too fast.
I’m eating right and I’m resting, and that’s the other thing.
Holly Stein: 18:19
It’s like these other moms were saying like in their culture was like oh yeah, the aunties came over.
They have the village and we just I don’t know, here we don’t.
I saw someone post recently she just had a C-section, I think less than two weeks ago, and posted all these screenshots of messages she’s been getting of like wow you’re, how are you back cooking?
We’re praising her for being active and going to the farmer’s market and doing all those things. I don’t judge people for making the decisions they make and doing what they feel is best for them, cause I don’t want people to judge me for that, but I also want there to be the praise for, the woman who stays, like I’m going to be like you guys two weeks and I have not gotten out of bed, like, and I’m proud of that Like I could get out of bed but I don’t. I’m choosing to stay in bed and I want that to also be celebrated.
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